Beyond my own anecdotal assumptions, I also have many 50-year-old friends (and readers) across the country, who are well acquainted with the older man-younger woman phenomenon – even among aging boomers. “Not just a younger body in bed, but a trophy on the arm, a woman who is less likely to contradict him, a woman less likely to compete with him even inadvertently, and less need to compromise.“Why would a man want a woman he can talk with intelligently? I looked at him and raised my eyebrows as he began to smirk. Most of these middle-aged men have been married before, and they view the younger woman as easier, lighter, and it feels good… But I love all models.” As nice as that is to hear, in my experience, he is the exception.Because of the age difference, she didn’t feel excited to share news about her love interest, but she couldn’t deny the chemistry between her and this older man.
As I grew older and matured, I dated men closer to my age.And after divorce, while I saw some friends date older (because the men had bank), I frequently dated younger; not by design, but because we had more in common – our children were the same age.I attempted to find an answer via The Google, seeking the percentage of men in the US who date ten or more years younger; to my surprise, what popped up first were articles on cougar women dating younger men!I had just read a comment by a 50-something-year-old woman who has not been successful at finding a relationship in the Atlanta area.On a final note, I will reference the last posted musing by The Plankton, now nearly a year old.
Every time I meet a guy I’m interested in, I’m quick to text my friends a gleeful, exclamation-point-filled message about him, and they’ll tell me about their crushes in return.She is considering relocation, and hoping for more options elsewhere.As my significant other was scoffing at my insistence that it’s tough for women to find good men once they’re over age 45 much less 50, I reminded him that I possess plenty of experience in matters of Second Life Socializing.To “get” and keep a guy, you need to be elusive, mysterious, a bit of a bitch. But I firmly believe it is more likely to happen “in the real world” than when we’re meeting by checklist in the virtual universe of endless potential dates.And that just may mean saying “yes” to every opportunity to meet new people – every way we can.But if I want a real relationship, one that will last, I want someone close to my own age.” “You’re a rare bird,” I said. For example, The Guardian UK addresses the challenges of midlife dating for single women in this article, which quotes a writer who describes the no man’s land where many middle-aged females find themselves.