That doesn't mean that you and she should not maintain any close relationship that you have established -- it means that she needs to feel independent from you so she can move confidently into her young adulthood.
On issues like going out with friends who drive, drinking, drugs, sexuality and sex, we all hope that the values and beliefs that we have espoused to our kids will guide them as they navigate the troubled waters of adolescence.
Will insisting on a “walk thru” every few minutes make them more secretive and sneaky? He’s fairly “out there” about his attraction to her, and she seems to like that a lot.
It is flattering to be on the receiving end of such intense emotions.
It will be important to acknowledge this in your conversations with your daughter about this physical part of her relationship.
Finally, while your daughter is enjoying a developmentally typical aspect of adolescence, you’ll also want to make sure she has lots of other people and activities that make her feel good.
This may mean setting limits around how much time she spends with her boyfriend.
I don't want my daughter messing up because she has so much going for her.
First, let me address your specific parenting questions.I am trying to figure out if I need to accept that they are going to make out, and that this is normal, or should I try to be more intrusive.She’s absolutely mortified, of course, by my presence. How far is too far for my 14-year-old and her boyfriend?The worst thing to do at this stage is to become frustrated and to stop talking to them.They need to know, more than ever, that we appreciate them and the efforts they are making to "do the right thing".We cannot forbid our teens from doing things we dislike -- that doesn't work.