If there's any chances of reconciling it's going to have to be in a position of strength on your part, not vulnerability..your stuff together, recalibrate yourself emotionally and move forward with the past taking your time to sort of mourn what is happening...
There's nothing you can do but really take the blows that are being dealt to you emotionally and the worse thing you can do is bombard her with sappy messages and apologies, please just give me another chance everything will be better this time I promise..kinda thing.
But this was the first time a girl's ever broken up with me... But after talking with friends, and reading up on strategies on the internet, I discovered that the best thing to do is to move on with my life, and not contact her for a while. I'm worried that my desperate tactics may have dug a hole too deep for me to get out of. Yes, you can recover but you need to be in a position of strength and then re-evaluate the situation. Talking about how many kids we'll have and stuff like that. But by the time you get yourself together and moved on from things she'll probably be with someone else to be brutally honest with you..after her experiences with this new person may she reflect back and miss what she had with you, causing her to feel like rekindling the past.
I will definitely do what January suggested, to build myself back again...
I'm sure you'll fight vigorously to try and prevent the inevitable.
Sending text messages a couple of times a day is perfectly acceptable, and responding to messages they send you is fine; but if you text them constantly throughout the day you’ll be perceived as being desperate.
You may find they start to ignore some of your many messages or their responses will be short and blunt.
Don’t quickly change your plans to suit them, suit yourself. That way they’ll appreciate you have your own life outside of the relationship.
By staying in a relationship because you’re desperate to be with someone rather than be single, you will find yourself putting up with a lot of things you wouldn’t normally put up with.
Although in your head you’ll want to see them immediately, if you are always available you’ll start to appear desperate.
If they call you up to go out and you’re busy, tell them.
By concentrating purely on your new relationship, you will appear desperate and in time the person you’re dating will become aware of it.
To avoid looking desperate when dating, make sure you follow these steps to help you achieve a healthier relationship.
Talking about how many kids we'll have and stuff like that. You gather and collect yourself into a position where you are poised, confident and collected again.