At the first sight of white crew socks and short shorts, Stephanie knew she was in for a pretty bad evening.
Her date told her to knock herself out and order anything on the menu.
“When you get to be my age and you have gone out on a limb and not been married and settled down and done the traditional things, you have an extended family and friend -ships. In your 20s, you needed a date to have something to do or because you were looking for someone to take care of you. while others cook up Frankenstein’s monster, But veteran daters and those who have escaped the circuit offer these bits of advice. A male friend once shared his dating criteria with me, leaving me slack-jawed and in awe that men and women ever connect.
Children of the ’60s should be able to remember the game-and probably even sing part of the jingle, “.. There was the Dream, dressed in a white dinner jacket, and the Dud, in his unmatched plaids, horned-rim glasses, and white crew socks.In between episodes of “I Dream of Jeannie” and “Bewitched,” which taught us that magic and trickery were required to get a man to marry, we learned through commercials for “Mystery Date” that dating was a game of chance.Soif someone can’t enhance my life or add value to my life, and if they don’t share my values, I am not interested.” Q BVIOUSLY THERE’S NO EXACT SCIENCE TO SUCCESSFUL DAT-ing and mating. I’ve no doubt that the men reading this story will respond to that anecdote with, “What’s wrong with that? Women are often accused of being too picky, but at least we have some standards.But as we grow older, those standards can harden into impenetrable and unrealistic barriers that screen out all but the non-existent Mr. “You can be guilty of setting your expectations too high,” says Lisa Le Master, 41, president of Fairchild Le Master Oppel, a media training and crisis communications firm, “and that’s a quick way to find yourself alone.It becomes nearly impossible to find candidates unmarred by nicks and scratches.
THINK “JOURNEY,” NOT “DESTINATION.” Nina Atwood, a Dallas psy chologist and author of Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships, says the most important factor to dating successfully is having an open mind.
Echoing Kim Crosskno, he says, “the timing was never right to get married.” In the 70s and early ’80s, love-and sex-were in the air, Albright says.
The club scene in Dallas was at its height, and dating was an endless walk through a candy store.
Using his own anecdotal evidence, Albright maintains that the growing number of never-marrieds is a Yuppie phenomenon and a sign of the times.
Like the characters on “Seinfeld,” he and his single friends have been busy at work and at play.
When she did, going all Out with the fries and the large drink, he swallowed hard and said he wouldn’t be eating. “We can laugh about it now,” says Kim Crosskno, 40, who tried the same dating service as Stephanie, who has since moved to Australia.