If her parents approve of your behavior, then maybe they’ll allow her to go out with you if you politely ask them for permission.But there has to be a chaperone — maybe the mother or her yaya (the paid help who raised her) or the most trusted maid of the household who will carry the umbrella to shield her ward from the sun.
• People should be taught to back off and not run to a person to whom they are attracted.
This is to give themselves enough time to pray, seek counsel, and hear from God about the other person before they fall hopelessly in love and reach the point where their heart has already made a choice to be with the other person–whether it be the will of God or not!
Every pastor should have church guidelines that include boundaries for how their youth groups should be conducted.
Every youth pastor should be trained on the difference between the worldly concept of dating and the biblical concept of courtship.
On this Valentine’s Day week I am attempting to give some biblical clarity on this all-important subject for the sake of our local churches and for the sanctity and safety of the next generation who will soon have their own families.
The following are guidelines that best fit young people but many of the principles still apply to older and more mature single adults looking for a mate.Although the above three points are generalizations, they are true depictions of most cases regarding dating; its devastating results on the human soul cannot be fully measured!Even worse, the double-mindedness that results from numerous sexual encounters with various people carries into future relationships and even marriage.• Although they are committed to one another as “boyfriend and girlfriend” they most often end their relationship after several months when one “feels a crush” for someone else.Thus, the relationship ends with at least one of the individuals feeling devastated and wounded especially because of soul ties that were created from sexual intimacy.• There are no boundaries or ethics in this type of relationship.