What better way to inspire sympathy than through personal guilt?
After all, wasn’t it my fault in a way, for making this woman fall in love?
an insider information where i can get the best drinks in boston? and if i had seen, that these are fotos from a boring person i would had never tried to get in contact with you.”She explained how the scammer in her story moved the communication over to email—the traditional next step in the process—where he sent her romantic poems and declarations of undying love.
Despite her protestations to the contrary, I had been picturing a lonely woman who, even though she didn’t want to believe it, was actually beginning to fall in love with a man she had never met.
To no one’s surprise, the scammer explained that he was a successful contractor and that he had to fly to Nigeria, where he would have to pay the salaries of his new staff and a certain unexpected tax.
i was a little bit curious to know more about this man, he sent me some fotos, fotos from you.
now, four month later i found out the real identity of the man showing at this fotos are you and i found out that the man, who uses your fotos is an nigerian scammer.”But after going back and forth with the woman over Facebook, it occurred to me that maybe I was actually the mark of a meta-scam wherein the real scammer is falsely claiming to have been scammed by someone claiming to look like me in order to get the type of sympathy that these sorts of romance scams rely on.
The ensuing shame that can result from realizing you were a victim of such a crime or the stubbornly romantic nature of the broken-hearted dupes, ensures that many more instances go unreported.
In other countries, like Australia, investigations have found some million a month lost to online dating scammers.
Even the least internet savvy among us are wise to that unrealistic con by this point, but love — that greatest con of them all — seems to be too hard to resist. A 2012 University of Leicester study on the psychology of online romance scams points out “victims of the romance scam receive a ‘double hit’ from this crime: the loss of money as well as the loss of a relationship.”One of the easiest ways to affect this sort of scam has been through Facebook, where—despite constant reminders to the contrary—many of us still operate on an all-are-welcome approach when it comes to who we let into our social circles.
Facebook issued a report in early 2018 noting it had disabled a combined 1.3 billion fake accounts in the previous two quarters, and the company has estimated that up to 4 percent of its monthly users are fake.
Then again, a really savvy criminal probably wouldn’t want to use the image of someone too good-looking—so, wait, does that mean I’m only average-looking after all?
You can see how this has played havoc with my sense of self.
He didn’t have the funds necessary as it turned out. She said she told him she would send the money but told me that she never had any intention of doing so. I continued trading messages with her all the same, though, in a sort of perverse mirroring of her ordeal.