And certainly, you should be able to talk about the bad things as well as the good.
But if your partner is constantly bringing up old wounds out of context, they might be going after your pity as a way to distract you from current circumstances.
Usually, these come in the form of an old friend who just has to come along on your dates, an attractive bartender he can’t stop talking to, or even his phone.Anything that when you complain about it, suddenly you’re the insecure/melodramatic/crazy one.This is called “love-bombing,” and results in a flood of dopamine. )"He will choose you, disarm you with his words, and control you with his presence," explains Dr. (Who among us hasn’t regretted the late night, subtext heavy, “Hi how’s it going? )You know that compliment “You’re not like all the other women? Any man who pits women against each other really needs to have his feminist card revoked.My Socio was particularly good at disparaging his ex-girlfriends, all who came in various shades of “crazy.” For a while I even believed he had just made a string of terrible dating decisions.To do that, many will introduce another person into the relationship to upset the balance and make you glom onto them harder.
A straight-up affair would be too easy (and risky) to reveal.
Maybe your partner only ticks one or two of the boxes.
But if you are so unhappy in your relationship that the idea that they may be a sociopath even occurred to you, consider why.
For this is the essence of sociopathic behavior, and desire."Sociopaths want to be the center of your world.
If they’re not, it becomes much harder to exert control.
If I’m being honest, I began wondering if my partner was a sociopath 10 months before we broke up. As someone who genuinely wants to believe in the goodness of the people around me, it was terrifying and sad to realize I had been so close to someone who I no longer wanted in my life in any form.