On Friday, xo Jane, the irreverent women’s blog founded by Jane Pratt, posted the latest in its “It Happened to Me” series, first-person confessionals on topics that are sometimes whimsical (“My Toilet Exploded.
Again.”), sometimes dark (“This is the First Time I’ve Written About My Rape, and I’m Doing it For You, Todd Akin”), sometimes awkward (“I Tried to Have Sex With My Gay Best Friend”), but nearly always shocking. And this installment, by freelance writer Jenny An, seems poised to blow all of its predecessors out of the water.
There is some overlap here with what South Asian, Southeast Asian, Middle Eastern, and Muslim women experience, but these communities have Being fetishized, exoticized, and sexualized as geishas, china dolls, lotus blossoms, and dragon ladies to being perceived as “model minorities” and also “perpetual foreigners.” These stereotypes leveraged against East Asian women have been normalized, just like rape culture.These tropes can be found in representations in media, comments that harass us sexually and racially, and ways we’re constructed via laws and policy..pass_color_to_child_links a.u-inline.u-margin-left--xs.u-margin-right--sm.u-padding-left--xs.u-padding-right--xs.u-relative.u-absolute.u-absolute--center.u-width--100.u-flex-inline.u-flex-align-self--center.u-flex-justify--between.u-serif-font-main--regular.js-wf-loaded .u-serif-font-main--regular.amp-page .u-serif-font-main--regular.u-border-radius--ellipse.u-hover-bg--black-transparent.web_page .u-hover-bg--black-transparent:hover. Content Header .feed_item_answer_user.js-wf-loaded . Rachel Kuo is a Contributing Writer for Everyday Feminism and a scholar and educator based in New York City.
Her professional background is in designing curriculum and also communications strategy for social justice education initiatives.Which seems odd, given that the story is seemingly about as insider-y an inside-baseball piece as you might possibly imagine: Titled “I’m an Asian Woman and I Refuse to Date an Asian Man,” it’s an extended and somewhat bizarre diatribe in which An outlines the reasons why she finds dating someone of her own race to be anathema, and chooses to date white men instead.“It has nothing to do with skin color,” the subtitle says.The idea that white is still tops, SAT scores, corporate jobs and fancy degrees be damned” — all while simultaneously acknowledging that her “thinking is Fawked up.” For me at least, it triggered the same instinctive reaction I had when I first encountered the now-infamous Wall Street Journal book excerpt, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” by Yale law professor and mother of two Amy Chua, now better known by the sobriquet Tiger Mom: These are ideas and phrases that have been consciously engineered and carefully chosen to generate maximum backlash. And by thoughts, I mean thoughts that aren’t a long string of expletives.Which is why, when I posted An’s piece to my Facebook circle for comment, I did so with the following message: “Oh, boy. Thank you.” Trolling is the online term for — we’ll let Wikipedia chime in here — posting “inflammatory, extraneous or off-topic messages in an online community, such as a forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking readers into an emotional response.” Trolling is often done merely to taunt or prank (especially as a kind of hazing to newcomers to an online community).This erasure of individualism, in a society that prioritizes individualism as fundamental to humanity, is a form of dehumanization.