Professor Fugere points out that this phenomenon persists throughout our lives, as men age they prefer even younger partners while as women age they continue to prefer older partners until around the age of 70.In evolutionary terms, Professor Fugere says that for men it is, simply, about ‘ensuring that a prospective partner is fertile’ while women consider the resources an older man might have ‘such as income’.
We tend to portray older men as more romantic, wiser and kinder.
Obviously, this is completely flawed because age doesn’t always prevent you from being a terrible person but, as dating apps take over and millennial men becoming increasingly hard to pin down because they’re all too busy nurturing their bromances anecdotally at least, it seems that older men who remember the world before Tinder are having their moment.
I can just not imagine ever getting a text from him and wondering how to respond to that.’ How does that feel? I ask Professor Fugere what she thinks of all of this?
Is young women’s attraction to older men nature, nurture or a combination of the two?
I’m happy to wait for you, and if not that’s fine.’ There were just no games and there never is games with him.
He never plays it cool just so that I think he’s playing it cool.
As one self-described ‘grandad botherer’ aged 30, (let’s call her Daisy) told The Debrief ‘during my twenties I just realised that older guys were classier and cooler about most stuff than men by own age’.
She added that, following extensive research in this area, she discovered that guys who were 40 were also ‘in general, better in bed, had their own place, made excellent breakfasts, were never a dick about it if you didn’t want to see them again and don’t mind when you get pissed and called them 15 times in a row at 4 AM.
Women are statistically more likely to marry men who resemble their fathers in hair colour and eye colour, and women with older parents may be more likely to marry older men.’ There it is, all roads lead to dad. ‘This is definitely an unconscious preference’ says Professor Fugere, ‘if women consciously realise that men resemble their fathers, they are less likely to find them attractive.
However, based on the research I mentioned before, I believe that this preference is driven by both sexes…it just so happens that it is advantageous in terms of both sexes for younger women to be attracted to older men.’ Susan reflects on this.
‘An older partner may be in a better position to provide stability, he may also be more mature which a woman might prefer’, she explains.