I get the whole macho must be the provider of the family but why would a guy date someone with such a huge income dispairty?Please help me figure out what I am doing wrong when it comes to dating.Just to make things clear, I am an Asian American Woman.
I am not really sure what I am doing wrong at this point.I have given online dating a shot however a lot of guys don't really want a serious relationship.Yes, maybe in the older days in Asia (and somewhat still true even today), you only married within the same socio-economic class, but that is rarer and rarer outside of the top 1% in the west.Men, especially westernized men, aren't putting a woman's accomplishments high on their list of attractive qualities.Fact is, the way we were raised is tough to deal with modern western values.
Oh sure, making tons of money and working hard are seemingly very compatible western traits (although I've lately questioned the latter) -- but those traits are almost only for and don't apply as well in this post-feminist western world.Throughout most of medical school I ended up forming casual relationships nothing really with a future.And majority of my peers did the same thing as well.Plus, if you prejudge them by high standards - he's just not tall enough, or a bit balding - then you put him off the list, and nobody's there to take the slack. " "go grrl" comments appear, ask yourself who's going to pay the price for the bad advice.A lot of men in the bracket you want, AND WHO' D LIKE TO FIND SOMEONE LIKE YOU (a significant filter), are less socially adept and/or maybe take less care of themselves (because they don't feel they to) than what you wish, and they may just look like normal joes and not prince charming. Alright, I can relate to this - Asian American male, who was raised in the stereotypical "go engineering/law/medical route" that a lot of Asian Americans are. Most of my friends are still in some form of graduate school (medical/law/Ph D) - and I've been out of college 5 years.Yes, there are men who'd gladly take you on, and there's quite a lot of them, BUT THEY ARE A SMALL %.