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She and her older sister were inspired to start a blog (

Girl Defined.com) and wrote a book Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity.

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He loves to give us wisdom when we ask for it (James 1:5)!

Just remember that God is bigger, mightier, and more amazing than you could ever imagine.

With dating sites becoming the norm, I think we should do ourselves a favor and dig into the topic of online dating (especially as we head into this month typically focused on romantic love). Tackling the topic of online dating is a little intimidating for me.

I have several really close friends that I greatly admire who stand on opposite sides of the spectrum on this issue.

Many believe that this helps narrow down the options and gives a better chance of relationship success. Online dating is often for the purpose of finding your lifelong match. You’re a girl going online and getting to know total strangers. It’s not possible to know with certainty that the person on the other side of the screen is safe. I’ve heard several people who’ve used online dating say that it requires a lot of time to create a profile, keep up with emails, and get to know the different potentials. Your life is about reflecting Christ and pointing others to Him, not to find a date or a mate.

Guys online will most likely appreciate a girl who’s intentional about marriage and who’s interested in a guy doing the same. Before you create your online dating profile, consider whether you have that time to spend at this stage of your life. Fully strive to trust in Him, rely on Him, and rest in Him, and ask for His guidance as you consider online dating.

Their passion is to help young women find God’s truth about beauty and womanhood and the freedom that comes from living a radically different life for Christ.

If I had to put a number to it, I’ve been asked out roughly 60 times in the last 7 years by about 40 men.

I don’t say this to brag, but to prove a point: even with those impressive statistics, not one of those dates bloomed into a relationship. Values and morals were confused, purity was optional, strangely intense pressures to marry came from every direction, and struggles with substance and sexual addictions all suddenly became issues that I had never considered would be points of conflict.

I went to a Christian school, and the extent of our sex-ed was: “don’t have sex”.

Invest time reading God’s Word and ask Him to help you trust Him more in this area of your life. I’ve heard it said that online dating really helps narrow down the singles who are serious about marriage from the ones who aren’t. By going online, you will have many more potential options.