You can still maintain more objectivity, filter out more undesirables, and be more likely to know if what you’re feeling is real love if you avoid sex before marriage. But beyond that, let me suggest the following: get physical, it will be more likely express the beginnings of a genuine spiritual bond, something that can last.
Then you’ll find yourself suddenly seeing your new spouse clearly.
I believe that the reason why her relationships ended were because she wasn’t Jewish, not because she sounds truly awful to date.
At my very first job in New York, a colleague informed me, “We get the full week of Christmas off, and typically our holiday party is the Friday before.” She was referring to the Christian holiday that most of my colleagues celebrate: Christmas.
Of course, even though Christianity and Judaism have a lot of ideological overlap, I can’t help but notice a lot of differences, namely that every single one of my Christian boyfriends ultimately broke up with me. I was surprised the first time I found myself dating a white Christian guy, not because they’re everywhere, but because growing up, I had learned that white Christians have a history of building oppressive systems that rely on white supremacy to maintain sociopolitical power. ”As I became more involved in fun Christian traditions, I would ask him, “Do you think I am going to hell because I’m a Jew?
Just wondering,” and he would go quiet, mutter something under his breath, and then go clean up a vase I had thrown against the wall. He said I was “obsessed” with our religious differences and was “condescending” and “emotionally manipulative,” which I’ve come to learn is a typical Christian-guy complaint.
But I was intrigued enough to want to look into it.