Software developers needed to remember that women and men were operating in very different worlds and that what was appealing to one may not be to the other.
But it was a feature that served more than feminism.One of the most common problems with online dating was how it felt like a duty rather than a privilege.It was a clever way to address what I called the Friendship Paradox: the many hundreds of online dating profiles that said they were “looking to make new friends”.I couldn’t tell whether they were being genuine or whether they were trying to mask their desire to hook up.Women could review their matches at leisure to find the absolute best options.
Yes, it meant that I had look through my matches’ profiles to find conversation openers, but I welcomed the chance to start the conversation on my terms.
Bonus: it would surely alienate men who were so entrenched in toxic masculinity that they needed to make the first move.
I wondered if this was why the quality of my conversations on Bumble was so much better.
So when downloading Bumble, I kept my expectations low.
My first surprise came when I saw that it had a Bumble BFF feature for making friends.
After spending 10 minutes looking through profiles, I concluded that Tinder and Bumble were nothing alike.