It is a choice to wait for God’s best, for His glory.It is a decision to walk by faith, to trust in God, to honor others above yourself, and to believe that God will deal bountifully with you, because He is love.If defrauding (stirring up desires that cannot be righteously satisfied) occurs, the couple can foolishly and tragically give away both emotional and physical affections that should have been reserved for a life partner.
If, during the courtship, one or both parties realize that marriage is not God’s will and they end the relationship, the courtship has not failed.On the contrary, the courtship was successful, because God gave the direction that was sought through it.In a dating relationship, self-gratification is normally the basis of the relationship.Instead of focusing on God’s pleasure, the couple is often looking for personal pleasure.A courting couple can evade numerous temptations by the choice to be held accountable to God-given authorities.
The dangers of defrauding can be avoided more successfully, and an honest, open friendship can be nurtured and protected. Since one of the most important decisions we will make is the decision of marriage, we should make every effort to know and do God’s will in this area.As they establish guidelines for their relationship, they can more easily recognize that God also holds them responsible to honor one another.Receiving God’s grace and the support of others strengthens them to maintain their commitment to purity.(See Proverbs 3:5–7.)Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.Courtship is a relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other.