Unless that was discussed up front, it would creep me out a bit.
In general I'm a switch but tend to be more dominant, but I don't have that being a major part of my relationships. I've got 2 years up on my SO, but he's definitely smarter then me in a lot of ways (though I find that incredibly sexy) and knows a lot in general about life.
By and large, they feel like they're about my age -- we feel like peers. I don't like clingy guys and he's nice and busy finishing up his phd.
I'm looking for a peer relationship, a partner, after all. There is no power play or submission to me being older than him.
Until something happens like I mention a Top 40 song from 1993 and he has never heard it in his life.(Mmm mmm mmm mmm by Crash Test Dummies.)I am currently dating a caring, wonderful, loving, and mature 26 year old man (I'm 31). He is brilliant, has a stable & well paying job, is very considerate and thoughtful, always putting my needs before his, AMAZING in bed OMFG yes...there is no safer place for me to be than in his arms.
Some days it does surprise me, b/c he is 5 years younger than me and seems to have his life more together than me! He is by no means submissive and usually has no problems putting me in my place.
We look about the same age, we act about the same age, and despite being in different stages of our life we mesh quite well.
Some problems we have faced: If I knew that he was dating me because he's a submissive and my age just plays into that fantasy then we wouldn't work out at all.The only person it has ever bothered was me, but only when we were in our 20's. I am currently dating someone 7/8 years younger than me.The only reason it works is because I can't tell he's younger.THAT relationship ended terribly, since we both were clearly not ready for marriage and he didn't mature into the man he needed to be.Of course, he could have been older and still act like an immature baby. My current partner is aware of my troubled past and has never brought it up, not even once. Age really shouldn't matter, especially when you immediately click with someone.My age is part of who I am, I don't want to be fetishised over it.