When women complain that, “all the good ones are taken,” you can bet that they have eliminated men with children as qualifying for their definition of “good.” And that is bad.
Here are nine tips for dating a man with children from a previous relationship.
This objectivity will demonstrate that his actions and character are not as important to you as the feelings you have toward them and their mother.It's likewise critical that you practice the art of sharing and accept that you're not always going to be invited to join them in outings and family activities.The potential downside, however, is that your new romance is a package deal that includes the offspring of her prior relationship.Whether they decide you're the coolest dude on the planet or punctuate every exchange with "You're not my real dad" depends on your confidence in yourself and your readiness for parenthood.Their mother can obviously fill in many of these blanks for you but it wouldn't hurt to find a parent or teacher who is familiar with this age group and can give you advice and suggestions.
When you finally meet your sweetheart's offspring, engage them at whatever level they seem to feel most comfortable.They also need to appreciate that the inclusion of a new male figure in their lifestyle doesn't diminish the importance of their real dad.Early dates with your new love should be breakfasts or lunches when the kids are in school, or evening dates where the children have already been taken to a friend's house or the babysitter's before you arrive.Her credits include many books, plays, optioned features, articles and interviews.Publishers include Harper Collins, Michael Wiese Productions, "PLAYS," "Writer's Digest" and "The Writer." She holds a B. in communications (emphasis on audience analysis and message design) from California State University, Sacramento.Ask them about school and what they're learning, what they're reading or what they thought of a particular TV show or kid-centric movie without coming across as trying too hard.