If you never want to experience a broken heart,” Norrington said, “eliminate all expectations from your relationships.” More than anything, people who are pained need to learn strategies for coping with the pain.
Because people can sometimes, “unrealistically expect or hope that life is all unicorns and roses,” said Marter.
Keep this in mind when you meet your next potential suitor and you swear they are “THE ONE”. Many happy couples share that they met their partner when they least expected it. The Roles – While you are dodging The Rep and taking time for yourself, it can also be helpful to look at past relationships and what role you and your partner took on.Everyone has flaws, everyone has skeletons in the closet, and no one is perfect. You may notice a pattern emerging and can use this information to seek a healthy and happy relationship.Those feelings that the result from this crisis of self-esteem can drive people to say terrible things to themselves, to devalue themselves.“Be mindful of self-talk, become rooted in the present moment, practice deep breathing and meditation,” advised Marter, who also said that, “practicing gratitude helps to shift perspective.” “When we are rooted in the present moment we feel our best.“People with broken hearts have one thing in common—having expectations of other people.
Having expectations of how someone else is supposed to act, feel, think, speak and behave.It also doesn’t mean that you will never date again, so there is an upside.But when is the right time to pick yourself up and get back on the dating horse? We have met The Rep many times and we have been The Rep ourselves. What is fueling your need to jump into the next relationship?Surf through the feelings and there is a lot of wisdom that can come.” The process of moving on from a relationship that has run its course can be an opportunity for growth and self-betterment. Norrington said, “Contrary to popular belief, it possible to eliminate all heartbreak and disappointment.The secret is…choose to prioritize happiness.” While this advice might seem like an oversimplification of healing, prioritizing happiness takes a lot of work, and Norrington teaches that eliminating expectations is the first step in healing a broken heart.Finding the strength to search for the wisdom embedded in the hurt can be daunting though.