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This article was co-authored by Trudi Griffin, LPC.Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Wisconsin.While some feelings of jealously and insecurity may be normal in a relationship, obsessive behavior is not.If your boyfriend is jealous to the point he monitors how you spend your time, limits your contact with friends and family members, and becomes jealous over small interactions you have with others, you need to take action.Once we get it into our head that someone would be a good life partner, the brain is very well built to turn a person into a doormat." Fisher's MRI studies also suggest that when someone is crazy in love, the insular cortex, a brain region associated with anxiety, lights up like a Christmas tree.
Which is why, when your crush's texts stop coming ("He said he would BRB! Then there's the roiling mix of hormones that make you sexually hungry for the object of your obsession. His age (35) and success were a potent combination, and she was instantly attracted. "He'd pick me up, and we'd go back to his place and have sex," Katz says.If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, it's important to recognize abuse and take action by leaving the relationship. The problem is that he's been to known to be obsessed/in love with another girl that works there (again, she has another job so only a few hours a week)."I would say that if you don't experience some degree of obsessive thinking as a relationship takes hold, you're not truly in love," says Helen Fisher, Ph D, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University, in New Jersey.Blame it on evolution: Once we find someone we believe is right for us, we're literally driven to pursue that person. "In the early stages of love, you're pretty much drunk on dopamine — the brain chemical linked with feelings of ecstasy, cravings, even addiction," says Pepper Schwartz, Ph D, a professor of sociology at the University of Washington at Seattle and coauthor of .Scarily, it's the exact same circuit that gets triggered in cocaine addicts.