I don’t expect a woman I am dating, or even more seriously involved with, to “help me get through my pain and loss”, as it relates to my late wife’s passing.
I should have done that prior to entering the relationship.” It’s a reasonable concern, worrying that a widow(er) will compare the next relationship to the one that came to a tragic end.
Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run its course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than ‘the experts’ predict.
If the photos can’t come down, or the reminiscing is constant and weepy, more time is needed.
Most widow(er)s have a support system of friends and family.
If you search for ‘widow dating’ or ‘widower dating’—you’ll find a plethora of stories and solutions to ‘getting back out there again.’ While it means well—and is likely, solid information—sometimes, the most important person to ask is, well, yourself.
That’s because each person and situation is unique.
I was lonely for several years before my husband died.
I would have been dating again within a year if I had not been in a car accident that put me out of action for nine months.There are all sorts of dating experiences many have in their lifetime—from the rotating door of bachelors and bachelorettes in our 20s to the more mature approach to finding love in our 30s, meeting a partner is no easy task.That’s what makes widower dating, widow dating or building a connection with a widower/widow that much more difficult.After all, you or your potential partner invest time, energy and heart into their marriage and their partner was taken too soon from them.Believing that love can happen again for them or for yourself requires strength, bravery and trial-and-error.Ask questions about widow dating, listen carefully, and don’t come to conclusions about the deceased spouse or the previous relationship.