#1 First of all, they tend to be poor communicators.This means that they are unwilling to share their thoughts and feelings with you and prefer to keep things locked up. Whether it is explaining why he had to cancel on you yet again, or telling you why he just cannot see himself committing right now, he will be full of reasons why he cannot give you what you need.Making a good adjustment to life after divorce sounds simple: (1) Create and use a good support network to help you release the emotional impact of your divorce, (2) redefine yourself with a new life purpose, (3) set and start pursuing new goals for your health, wealth, love, and self-expression, and, if you have kids, (4) minimize the effect of divorce on your children.
Unless you are fine with the relationship having an expiration date, keep in mind that you should not turn a blind eye toward these red flags.
#1 Big Talker The first red flag that he is emotionally handicapped is when you start noticing that he is nothing but all talk. Do not mistake big talk with being proud of one’s achievements.
This is especially frustrating when you really like him and want to take the relationship to the next level.
More often than not, emotionally unavailable men will be all up for fun and games but once you start steering the relationship towards becoming something more serious, they go running for the hills.
There is no harm in taking pride in an accomplishment.
Learn to note the subtle differences between the two.Everyone recovering from divorce needs a Transition Partner. The one decision you have the most confidence in, picking your TP, is usually a bad one. Your charge: You must find a person who can be truly helpful in reducing the damaging impact of your emotional reactions to your divorce and subsequent life after divorce. Kate’s Story: When I first met my sister-in-law she had been divorced for five years.The divorce was messy and publically humiliating and she was still angry and resentful toward her ex. Twenty-five years later Kate’s professional life had blossomed but her personal life was much the same.Unfortunately, men with emotional problems are aplenty.