As such—So when the kid asks, "Why are you wearing lipstick? It makes you take a more discerning look at this princess agenda and brainstorm ways to be more reasonable in general.
Of course my apartment is much cleaner—because I only have to account for me. I recognize I have some control freak tendencies, relationships included.A lot of life is outside our control and dating someone with a child is a very effective reminder that no matter what, we can't always call the shots. As such, I waited until my boyfriend thought it would be OK to introduce me to his kid.We had a lot of wine and played loud punk and soon it was gleaming. With a child and full-time job and other luxurious duties such as bathing oneself and staying fed (AND keeping the kid fed), cleaning falls to the wayside.Besides not having enough time to clean, kids are just miraculously mess-inducing machines. As such, I try to see this situation as an opportunity to relax my OCD tendencies and work to become a more patient, understanding person.Matters are so peachy that she even shared me on a Google Calendar she, her boyfriend, and my boyfriend share re: who has chief parenting duties when (it's half-and-half, really).
This kind of amazing camaraderie made me really look at past relationships I'd previously kept duct-taped in a box and tossed the way-back part of the closet.It's a discussion he and I can have, but it's not my endeavor to pilot.It's fun to make fun of Oldsters until you realize you are now one.Cleaning is one of my favorite forms of therapy, likely because if I'm in a highly cluttered space physically, that transfers mentally and makes me feel like a stressed-out trashcan.Very early in this relationship, I suggested I help my boyfriend with an intense cleaning sesh of his kitchen.A few years ago, I started cracking jokes regularly about hot dads.