If you're suspicious, just let time do its work and have fun as you learn about her. You have to have a sense of humor about it and sex in general.As for a woman starting to flirt with you, no you do not have to be very careful because NOTHING out of your control can happen in a mere conversation. I don't really get how people think romance, eroticism, sex, fliration and all that is in any way unpleasant, or "work" as you say.So in these cases you already know something about them.
Are you likely to misinterpret attempts just to be friendly as flirting? Flirting is more complicated than you might first think.
By definition, flirting is communicating in a way that signals attraction (Hall, Carter, Cody, and Albright, 2010).
Still doesn't mean it's a serious intent, and it could be just for fun, but it's certainly flirting at that point. " I see it as a form of manipulation and it takes me a long time to warm up to someone.
The only women I can have a relationship with are those for whom I initiated contact.
You can find out in plenty of time what their motives are.
You might just ask what they're looking for and that alone can be a fun conversation, and you can see if what she says adds up.When I say, I initiated it, I mean that since the introduction came from me, I can be reasonably sure that the exchange is sincere.Of course, I'm still looking for signs that she is just jumping on an opportunity to get something out of me if she knows I'm interested, but, at least I have some control over the exchange.In fact, it may not even be clear who exactly initiated a flirt in some cases because you are responding to something that may not be a flirt at all, and continuing the dialog.Who's to say exactly which comment in the exchange was a flirt? So when you say it only works when you initiate contact, I would say you are missing the point because with flirtation it might not be entirely clear who initiated it.At the same time, though, people tend not to overestimate flirting, which could be socially useful. Individual differences in the communication of romantic interest: Development of the flirting styles inventory. OK, I have to chime in here because I've been told by more than one person that I'm the biggest flirt they'd ever met.