However, if you’ve never spending time with your guy friends there’s a good chance it’s because you’re clinging a little too tightly to your girl. Are you spending as much time with your guy friends as you want?How much less time are you spending with them now that you’re attached?
This is going to take some reflection on your part. Maybe the problem isn’t with the amount of time that you have with her.
The most important thing is, to be honest with yourself when exploring this question. Maybe it’s about getting more out of the time and enjoying it more.
Some guys come to The Art of Charm knowing they’re needy. In fact, I’d say most men who are being needy in a relationship (or in general) don’t know they’re being needy — or how they’re needy, which can be even trickier to spot.
And yet neediness is one of those qualities, like insecurity and general awkwardness, that can fester for years, often without anyone diagnosing it, often without the person even realizing it’s there.
If you keep bailing at the last minute, ask yourself why this is.
Does it stem from an insecurity about having too much of a social life of your own?Are you afraid of what she’ll do if you don’t give her all of your time?How This Is Negatively Affecting Your Life: Alone time is important, but shrinking your life to only include her is a common mistake and a sign of neediness in relationships.No matter who you are, no matter how much you like each other, you’ve got to get a little bit of time apart here and there.It’s far better for a relationship to be comprised of two strong, healthy, independent people than it is for one or both of them to be needy and greedy with the time of others. Time spent both alone and in groups that do not include a significant other are important for maintaining balance in your life.Still, guys who aren’t needy in other areas can have a tendency to be needy here.