Courtship is a relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other.Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents or mentors, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage.When you only are allowed to get to know someone with your parents or a chaperone present, you get to know the Sunday best of the person.
It is a choice to wait for God’s best, for His glory.It is a decision to walk by faith, to trust in God, to honor others above yourself, and to believe that God will deal bountifully with you, because He is love.A courting couple can evade numerous temptations by the choice to be held accountable to God-given authorities.The dangers of defrauding can be avoided more successfully, and an honest, open friendship can be nurtured and protected. Since one of the most important decisions we will make is the decision of marriage, we should make every effort to know and do God’s will in this area.Jesus gave this instruction with a promise: (Matthew ).
When a person makes a growing relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ the foundation of all decisions—as he or she seeks God’s kingdom—God will provide all that is needed, including the marriage partner prepared by God just for that person.Since the boundaries of the relationship are self-determined, the couple may easily succumb to temptation and fail to consider their responsibility to honor each other in purity and genuine love.A couple participating in courtship seeks the accountability of their parents or other mentors.If, during the courtship, one or both parties realize that marriage is not God’s will and they end the relationship, the courtship has not failed.On the contrary, the courtship was successful, because God gave the direction that was sought through it.(See Proverbs 3:5–7.)Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.