Since this is often their first love or serious relationship, many young people may not know the red flags or identify problematic behaviors. As young women and college interns at the National Network to End Domestic Violence, the victims of dating violence are our friends and classmates; they are the familiar faces on the quad or in the library.We know people in our lives who have experienced dating violence and the odds are that you or someone you know has too. We speak up when our friends make jokes about a drunk girl being ‘easy,’ and we offer support to a friend who is being abused.Most people have their first relationships while in high school or college.
Maybe there was one physical abuse incident, but she usually speaks to the isolation, the verbal abuse, the fear, the threats." 4. Intimate partner violence exists on a continuum of behaviors — it's not just punching and slapping, and it's rare that the first act of abuse is a violent one.
Abuse can be emotional, psychological, verbal, and sexual, and often escalates.
Abusers may also push your sexual boundaries by coercing, pressuring, threatening, or intimidating you into unwanted sexual activity, or even sexually assaulting you.
And reproductive coercion — tampering with your birth control or pressuring you to get pregnant — is another common abuse tactic, with 1 in 3 women in relationships with abusers also experiencing reproductive abuse, and 1 in 8 women who aren't in relationships with abusive partners reporting such coercion. If someone abuses you, it's an obvious decision to leave the relationship.
And even the stats we have are just for physical violence, and don't take verbal and emotional abuse into account.
"One woman told me, 'I can still hear his voice in my head.
The TV movie picture of domestic violence is an out-of-control man flying into a fit of rage. "Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior in which one exerts power and control over another individual," Ray-Jones says.
"To use the phrase "He's out of control" isn't accurate.
" Twitter answered back with #Why IStayed and #Why ILeft, in which survivors shared their stories of why they remained in abusive relationships and why they eventually got out.
Yet misconceptions persist — that abuse is a private matter, that women who stay with abusive partners are simply weak-willed, that women are just as abusive as men. One in four women, and 1 in 7 men, will experience relationship violence in their lives.
Recently, the White House released its “1 is 2 Many” campaign to raise awareness on dating violence.