Below is a recent testimonial from a guy who met his girlfriend at a Montreal speed dating event: "I had been on online websites for some time and always found that, for the time and money invested, there was very little return.
First dates were always hard when you’d met online, you imagine how the person will be but it is never exactly as you picture.
But as the years have gone on, the popularity of speed dating has dwindled … Unfortunately, the reality of modern-day speed dating, is that whilst most of the events take place in bars, the general crowd, particularly the men, are not people who are comfortable in bars.The very nature of speed dating means you have a captive audience.There may be an ice-breaker activity to kick the night off, and eventually things will settle into the speed dating portion which is a series of short, 5-7 minute dates with each guest of the opposite sex.Most dating services have taken the digital route which forces one to make a decision about someone else on paper which is counterproductive to the way humans actually form relationships. Every aspect of our service is aimed at meeting people, face to face, and creating a human connection. We have countless couples across Canada who are now in long-term relationships from meeting at our events.I’ve even seen a woman raise her score sheet above her head at the end of the night, and demonstratively rip it to shreds … I’ve seen men break down in tears, struggle to find conversation topics to last 4 minutes, and most recently one guy admitted he came regularly to speed dating events because it’s the only time women will talk to him!
Even if you aren’t the most socially confident person, speed dating can be more of a bane, because the nature of it – a short 4 or 5 minute judgment, sitting face on with a stranger in a forced environment – can make it feel like an interview, and make you even more nervous and awkward. When you write a dating blog, speed dating is part of the territory.And so for the last 2 years, I’ve attended more speed dating events than I can count. ‘Elite’ speed dating, silent speed dating, blind speed dating, paper bag speed dating, cycle speed dating, literary speed dating … But no matter the gimmick, it always seems to come down to the same brutal truth. Speed dating originated in 1998, and was set up by an American rabbi, as a way for young, single Jewish people to meet one another.Back in the naughties, when the idea was novel, speed dating events attracted large diverse crowds.Up for a laugh, people embraced the novelty, and tried it.And organising something that doesn’t feel like an interview – an activity where you engage with others more naturally. If not, then don’t go – go to something he or she finds fun instead.