That's something not everyone thinks this is a good thing. The worry about online dating comes from theories about how too much choice might be bad for you.
The idea is that if you’re faced with too many options you will find it harder to pick one, that too much choice is demotivating.
Is it creating a new reality in which people actively avoid real-life interactions?
But the fear that online dating is changing us, collectively, that it's creating unhealthy habits and preferences that aren't in our best interests, is being driven more by paranoia than it is by actual facts."There are a lot of theories out there about how online dating is bad for us," Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford who has been conducting a long-running study of online dating, told me the other day.The age of first marriage is now in the late twenties, and more people in their 30s and even 40s are deciding not to settle down.The rise of phone apps and online dating websites gives people access to more potential partners than they could meet at work or in the neighborhood.Instead of interacting with the people around her, she chose to search for a companion elsewhere online.
I wondered to myself, is this what online dating has done to us?
It makes it easier for someone who is looking for something very specific in a partner to find what they are looking for.
It also helps the people who use the apps by allowing them to enjoy a pattern of regular hookups that don’t have to lead to relationships.
There are online sites that cater to hookups, sure, but there are also online sites that cater to people looking for long-term relationships.
What’s more, many people who meet in the online sites that cater to hookups end up in long-term relationships.
The interview has been edited for length and clarity.