Think about when it might be OK to put yourself first, and make conscious choices to promote more balance in your relationship. Learn how to support your partner in their suffering.One relational need is to care for our partners and to feel good about that care.You can learn how to support your partner and how to be supported.
Instead of fighting depression this way, devote yourself to learning how to live with depression. It means letting them have negative, painful beliefs, even when you really want them to see things differently.You can stop trying to treat their depression and instead offer empathy, care, and love. It’s painful to watch someone you care about suffer and not be able to help them.It can be bewildering to listen to the person you admire and value most talk about themselves with extreme negativity, and in a way that doesn’t at all align with how you see them.No one is perfect, so sometimes the person you want to be with happens to have this illness.
You already know there is much more to the person than their depression or you probably wouldn’t want to be with them.
When the care you offer your partner is rarely helpful or well received, you eventually feel drained and shut down.
You may need to redefine what being helpful to your partner means, and change the way you offer care.
To begin creating more balance in your relationship, you must acknowledge that you have needs and at least some of them must be met.
Start to notice how much you’re choosing to meet your partner’s needs instead of your own.
Depression has a loud and convincing voice that dominates the minds of those who suffer from it.