You need to think of sex and relationships as two completely different things that have nothing to do with one another.What makes a man “see your worth” and end up FEELING so strongly for you that he wants a real relationship is something other than sex, and PHYSICAL desire, and ATTRACTION.
Here’s the thing…I don’t know if you see this, but you’ve moved on to wanting “something serious” right after you and he had sex, thinking that sex of course means there SHOULD be a relationship and he should feel the same way about you. The decision to have sex with a woman often has NOTHING to do with whether a man has decided that he wants to “date” you more seriously.
And sure, it would be nice if men were different and didn’t take sex so lightly.
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Many years ago, a guy friend said something that completely changed the way I viewed sex and relationships.
Just because a man has sex with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he’s spent even a second of his time deciding whether or not he wants to be with her or have a relationship in the future. a man’s not going to ever “see your worth” just because you’ve slept with him.
And more to the point, it is NOT the physical attraction a man feels for a woman, and getting close to her physically, that makes a man really “feel it” for you and want more.
So, what happens when men act like they’re not interested in anything serious, or don’t want a relationship, or they’re too busy to have one… And when he doesn’t feel it, there’s nothing a woman who doesn’t make him FEEL this way can do or say to make him want something more with her. They don’t want a woman to try to convince them that what they’re experiencing and feeling should be meaningful and loving. And he will not only be “open” to talking about something deeper and more meaningful with you, he’ll INSIST on it.
or any other of a list of lame excuses they give you? I reveal these specific behaviors and attitudes in my free dating advice newsletter, Catch Him and Keep Him.
and now he has stopped calling for no apparent reason whatsoever?
I received an email from a reader who went through this exact situation.
Unfortunately, this is the exact kind of thinking that makes it so frustrating and difficult for some women to figure out how to move from just dating a guy to becoming physical and starting an exclusive, committed relationship.