She’s well educated, with a rapier wit and a willingness to use it. And yet, Friday still remains the most lonely night of the week when she sees all of the happy, laughing couples making plans, having romantic dinners and enjoying the sex while she’s at home with Fringe on the DVR and a bottle of Malbec breathing in the kitchen. Well, whenever she’s interested in a guy – a guy who’s worth her time, because what’s the point of having standards if she’s not going to stick to ‘em? She’s done it all; dating sites, meeting guys at cons, the comic store, chatting up friends from class and at work.
The more beautiful or desirable a woman, the more she can have her pick of men.Olivia Munn may be a geek1 , but how is average Joe Nerd supposed to compete with the celebrities she meets on a daily basis? And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once. She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.Wide smiles that reach your eyes (the “Duchenne Smile”) and open, welcoming body language can make a shy or introverted guy feel more welcome.
Showing genuine interest or honest appreciation in his accomplishments or hobbies can also help him overcome feelings of “What could she possibly see in me?
I conducted an informal (and utterly unscientific) poll on the Dr.
Nerd Love Facebook Page, trying to get a handle on what guys mean. So let’s take a look at what men say is intimidating… Men can find beauty intimidating; the more attractive the woman, the more advantages society gives her.
Well, yeah, a first chance-maybe a second even, but draw the line there. His being intimidated might keep him from acting on the fact that he’s into you. Sick of trying to come up with a not-totally-crazy-girl way to bring it up to your guy friends and get their take on things?
A guy can get over feeling intimidated and don’t do a damn thing to change yourself so that he’ll feel “more like the guy.” You be you. And he’ll ease his way out of it if he’s up to overcoming his own insecurities. So we come to the annoying conclusion that he might BOTH like you and find you intimidating. Totally over over-analyzing the cryptic messages he leave on your Facebook Wall? Send your question over to askthedude [at] collegecandy [dot] com.
” And I do mean genuine; shy, geeky guys are perpetually concerned that people are secretly making fun of them.