Open your mind and your heart to the possibilities for love. Neither of you should see the other as a chief ambassador or racial educator for your group.
Be aware that there may be cultural differences about certain things like flirting. As people of colour, we are very used to being the ones who are discriminated against.
Once you acknowledge these differences, it becomes easier to accept people for who they are.
You also don’t want anyone who is dating you to make a statement. When it’s some idiot in public staring or making an offensive comment, it can be easy to ignore.
After all, if you love each other who cares what anyone else thinks? Give your family notice – don’t surprise anyone by just bringing them home.
Dating can be awkward enough already when dating people from your culture so you can definitely expect awkward moments when bridging ethnicities.
Take it all in stride and focus on seeing whether your values align, and you feel compatible and positive when you’re together.
Nonetheless, your family and friends’ issues are not yours. If you know that your family is racist or has issues with you dating out of your culture, be honest with your love about this.
So you are interested in dating a black woman or have found yourself a black girlfriend?
We may have grown up in predominantly African American communities where the ratio of white to black was reversed.
Something as simple as the community we grew up in can affect how we interact with people.
Perhaps, they only take you to inconspicuous places in one part of town. Anyone who is ashamed of being seen with you does not deserve to date you, whatever the story. Choose someone worthy of the wonderful person you are.
If anyone approaches you saying, “it has always been my fantasy to date someone like you,” they are just seeking to experiment. There is a difference between someone who has never dated interracially but is interested in you, and someone just looking to experiment. Other people may have issues with your choice of who to love.
It is important for you to acknowledge that and let us know that you respect those difference.