You’ve been in the work world ten times longer than I have.
I’m looking for someone that recognizes, and maybe even sympathizes, with this “new adulthood” thing I’m trying on. Scanning the inventory of relationships of older friends and family, I see the proverbial May Decembers everywhere, and in both directions.I’m occupied by learning how to take care of myself, metaphorically and literally, and it’s frequently epically self-indulgent. Each and every one of those relationships began somehow, and chances are one or both partners wondered if the age gap was too much to bridge.I’ve been on a lot of dates of late, and in spite of the wide parameters I think I want, and the results of that flimsy formula, I’ve found that my “sweet spot” was smaller than I thought.At 23, dating young is complicated by that pesky “college” business.Don’t get me wrong, I’m thrilled you’re educating yourself; I just think it might be hard to date you right now. I buy vegetables and change my sheets on a reasonably regular basis.
Sometimes, I even want to talk about work, which means waxing poetic about Power Point shortcuts and Excel functions.But, to be honest, it was exhausting to date him because he could never relax.When I suggested just spending a night at home eating dinner, he'd beg to go out and try a new restaurant or get a table at a club.If you’re 32 and you don’t want to settle down, that’s fine.I worry that you’re trying to relive your glory days vicariously through me, but as long as we avoid too much frat house nostalgia, we might just be okay.It’s about life stage compatibility, and that isn’t easy to bottle or quantify (no matter what Ok Cupid says).