Tickld has an example that only works on someone named Kassandra: “If you remove the D from your name, it’s an anagram for the word Arkansas,” a playful online dater wrote.
Kassandra answered that she’d never heard that one before.
An original, person-specific joke makes you stand out among vague come-ons.
I know what you’re thinking — yes, this takes a bit more time, thought, and effort.
When asked what the book was about, he answered, “Well it’s a phone book. The girl actually did respond with her phone number.
Sure, she gave him her dad’s number as well, but at least it’s something.
Maybe saying hi at a party works just fine, but online daters aren’t so easily wooed.
According to Ok Cupid, “Saying ‘Hey’ in a first message is almost equivalent to saying nothing — this greeting has an 84% chance of being completely ignored.” That first exchange sets the tone for the rest of the relationship, so you should go beyond one-word openers and say something to give your date a laugh.
Puns make good icebreakers because they’re witty and just a little bit silly. As a general rule, sexual language and references in a first message are no-nos.
Sure, making a pun is on the cheesy side, but so is pizza. Zoosk suggests something simple like: “What did the fish say when he swam into a wall? ” I personally enjoyed this gem of an opener courtesy of College Humor: “I just saw the best upsexy.” The other person can’t help but reply, “What’s upsexy? You could end up alienating your date before you can send a second message. Your message doesn’t have to be the most wonderfully worded introduction ever.
“I showed him your picture and explained what Ok Cupid was,” the online dater wrote.
“He let me off with a warning and said I better get your number.” Clearly, this guy is a smooth talker.
I don’t know if he won the girl over or not, but he made me laugh with his arresting anecdote. It just takes a little trial and error to acquire some stand-by icebreakers.