Online dating and texting

Often the disappointment is centered on feeling let down when the person you meet is compared against your original assessment behind the technology.Many of my clients have returned from their dates telling me that the person they met seemed entirely different than the person they emailed or texted with extensively.This is why it is essential to invest in your dating life by giving potential partners a chance to connect with you in person. Texting keeps you safe, but does not get you far in the relationship world.

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A major problem associated with too much texting between you and a romantic interest you have not met is that by the time you actually hear each other’s voices or meet in person, you have inaccurate perceptions and assessments of each other.

Therefore, you are more likely to be disappointed at the initial meeting.

The more you hide behind texting to flirt, give compliments or get a date, the harder it becomes to conquer your fears and be intimate in person.

Of course it feels more comfortable being rejected through a text message or behind a computer screen, but if all dating inquiries occur through these means, you are not truly putting yourself in a position to achieve true love and intimacy.

If you meet online, I highly recommend having a phone conversation to set up any dates and hear your date’s voice prior to meeting.

Bottom line: If you want your relationship to go the distance, I urge you to place the phone on silent mode, and enjoy the many perks of spending time with someone you care for.Healthy and stable relationships occur when both partners are willing to be vulnerable and present with each other face-to-face.Texting in moderation works well, if you include more time in person to assess the quality of your connection and deepen your relationship.This leads to a potentially flawed interpretation of the message and who the person is.As you get to know and spend time with them in person (think friends, family and co-workers), you naturally do a better job interpreting their texts and emails.To give you a better overall experience, we want to provide relevant ads that are more useful to you.