It can just get old when you’re the one in the mind-set of, “OK, I live here.
It just trailed off because I knew I was moving Woman A: The "dating scene" here is starkly different from the scene in the Bay Area, where I grew up.I now live in a very Catholic, socially conservative country and city.When this thought runs through your head on a fairly regular basis, you can’t help but try to answer it a little bit while you sit bored and tuning out a conversation you can’t understand that’s happening around you. You know, that place where in the winter, the houses are actually heated, and in the summer it doesn’t hit 130 degrees.I joined Peace Corps and came to Morocco to challenge myself. That place where people speak the same language that you think in. Sitting alone 5500 miles away working on an English lesson plan and seeing a Facebook status about ten of your closest friends all playing pool at your favorite bar is tough.In some form or another, I’ve been thinking it for the last 4 months. But seriously, when that’s my worry, I’ve got it made right? But let’s not forget what the actual motto of the Peace Corps is: “The toughest job you’ll ever love.” This shit is tough. A friend of mine and fellow PCV made a great point when we were talking about what it would take to quit and go home. I get to blow people’s minds with the next best “guess what I saw that crazy blond American do today…” moment.
And my 21 year old self will declare here and now this fact: if you spend a whole 27 months in the Peace Corps during your life, and don’t at some point think “What the fuck am I doing here? Alright, maybe not wrong, but I at least think you’re a little abnormal in the head. It’s not like a study abroad trip where you have a group of 15 other American’s with you all day long to lean on. I’ve got it better than most with three site-mates who have been here for a year and a half already. “You need to have both a push to leave here, and you need to have a pull back home to make you go.” So, most days, I really do love everything about being here. But I’m willing to bet every volunteer at some point gets that push to go home.
I think I always held a stereotype of Latinos as being sexual and flirtatious before moving here, but that is only half true — people can be very flirty and make sexual jokes out of anything, but when it comes to actually talking seriously or honestly about sex and having the sex itself, [my experience is] they tend to be quite conservative.
With my partner, who is a local, it took a long time for us to be on the same page in talking about what we wanted and what we thought about sex. That was very surprising to me given the stereotype of a "Latin lover." Woman B: Maybe this was totally naive, but I didn't expect the social scene in general — at least, the part of it that was most familiar to me — to be so insular and focused on other expats, mostly Europeans who were in the region working for governments or NGOs on aid projects.
Woman C: A lot of really awesome Nicaraguan men are already in relationships — and -term relationships, so in a way it feels like all the good ones are taken. There is also the option to date other expats, which is sort of hard: a lot of expats are really transient, and since I live here long-term (I don’t have some end date in mind), it’s hard for me to feel like I can invest in anyone who isn’t staying here for at least a year.
A lot of transient expats have a totally different mind-set too — they’re more inclined to take the role of a guest or treat everything as a new experience.
What if that girl you met at a party is down to go travel the world with you?