wise man once said that “a gentleman is not defined by the content of his wallet or the cut of his suit.He is defined by his manners and the content of his character.” We at The Gentle Manual are strong proponents of good manners.
Today, not only is bad hygiene seen as disrespectful to others, it is also symbolic of one’s own lack of diligence, discipline, and self-respect.
A modern gentleman makes it part of his daily routine to ascertain that he is well groomed, well cleaned, and presentable at all times.
Headgear was removed indoors as a sign of trust (i.e.
“a sign that we are among friends”) and to make sure that outdoor elements (i.e.
In medieval and renaissance times, high status women most commonly wore large skirts and tight-fitting corsets, making movement difficult and door-opening virtually impossible.
Men would assist by opening doors for women, and the tradition became one associated with high ranking, properly educated men over time.
However, it seems as if the concepts of manners and etiquette are a dying breed in this day and age–a sort of arbitrary construct characteristic of generations past.
Etiquette used to be one of the most important lessons a man could learn–one that helped a man get on in his social and professional life and one that set him up for success.
Sadly, many men today associate manners with negative opinions–stiff, too old-fashioned, contrived, awkward, the list goes on.
You may have tried in vain to hold a door open for a woman only to be met with a blunt “I can do it myself, thanks.” It’s hard these days to bridge the fine line between genuine politeness and coming across as an ostentatious freak.
If you were invited to dinner with family or with a client and you chose to show up a fashionable 15 minutes late, you were usually looked down on or thought less of.