One second you’re looking at young lovers holding hands, and then suddenly the deep dark part of your brain whispers, “I wonder if their kids are going to be white or black? Interracial relationships and marriages may be on the rise, but we still see them differently.
Additionally, the person who’s actually in an interracial relationship is going to have a different set of experiences than a white, heterosexual cis couple, and that’s solely based on the fact that the entire universe can’t seem to get over it.
“My girlfriend is Taiwanese and I will never have grown up Asian in a predominantly white Catholic school like she did, but to the best of my abilities I can be part of her life and know the people in her Taiwanese community. This is a really important aspect of the conversation to address, because part of existing within an ideology means that you aren’t aware of the ideology until you’re outside of it–and if you’re interracially dating, you’re definitely outside of it.
Honestly, it’s fun.” Your partner can teach you about their experience within their own racial community, giving you the opportunity to see the world from new eyes. Many of us have a stereotyped picture in our heads of what love is supposed to look like, and when we see something different, it tends to make us squirm.
Don’t let the world intrude on what belongs between you and your SO!
Relationships are built on love and should not be defined by the comments and wondering eyes of strangers, plain and simple!
It’s like saying that one of you is an orange and the other is a banana, completely disregarding that you’re both fruit in the first place!
“What I’ve found is that though race is interjected into multiracial relationships, above all else the couple tends to disregard that most of the time because for them it’s just dating and sex, it’s not about ethnicity,” says Wu.
The beautiful thing about this is that now they know how to truly cherish what is considered “different.” “I’m the palest skinned woman you’ve ever seen, and I’m dating a black guy,” says Lindsay Lambert, a junior at the University of Oregon.
“To be completely and shamefully honest, before I dated my boyfriend I probably would have stared at an interracial couple too.
Race will continually be injected into their relationship because society will put a big red stamp on their foreheads that reads, “This is different.” We want to highlight the experiences of people in interracial relationships.
We want to remove that stamp and lay bare and open what it is like to be them, the pros and cons and everything that goes along with them.
In high school, I went over to a classmate’s house and she just happened to be the daughter of Filipino immigrants.