”Pros:– They are very easy to use as they are non-threatening– They appear more spontaneous Cons:– Sometimes you can spend way too much time trying to find something worth commenting on and you lose an opportunity to talk to a girl.– These don’t really differentiate you from other men.
Nowadays – one of those “Situations that require action” is that moment when you’re hanging out at the club and you spot the woman of dreams. If you’ve ever asked yourself “how to start a conversation with a girl? And sadly, most men I talk with end up doing nothing at all.Notice something worth commenting on – like the bass player’s haircut, the goofy-looking guy over there, the crowded nature of the room – then you can just turn to the woman and start the conversation.I often just lean in and act like we’re already talking.“He should’ve talked to a female friend before choosing that hat, don’t you think?There’s no pressure on the girl, which means that there is a lot more time to build attraction.
Cons:– If you don’t know how to transition to attraction conversation, you come across as friendly and non-threatening – ie: Friend Material. It can be something like pretending your doing an interview, using a prop, or doing magic.Let’s first dive into what “openers” are and what makes a good one, then we’ll talk about some of my favorites. Falling from Heaven.”While the classic “pick up lines” seem like they’re designed to attract women – they actually do the opposite: Send them heading for the hills. On the other hand – a good opener at first glance appears like it isn’t designed to pick up women at all. What makes a PUA opener different then a pick up line is this: openers do not start out with some sort of show of interest in the woman.For a complete list of the BEST tried and tested conversation starters I’ve ever come across, and how to use them correctly, download and listen to my 3-hour audio program. When you think of pick up lines you probably think of some cheesy line like “What’s your sign? A good PUA Opener should leave the woman guessing what your real intentions are.Mainstream dating advice often advocates waiting a few days before making the call to appear non-needy. One method of dealing with the awkwardness of the FPC is to call the girl’s phone number immediately after getting it, making a joke out of it, which helps set the precedence of phone conversations being fun.Another way of dealing with the FPC is to create a fun nickname for the girl during the interaction, then use that nickname during the FPC.You need a good opener – a good opener starts a conversation with her in a way that sets you apart from the other guys who have approached her. While I have tons of exact little lines and things to say – and I’ll give you some here – keep in mind that you are an individual, and you can tailor each of these different types of openers to fit your personality and interests. Notice though, you are not complimenting the woman to seek her approval.