Whether dating or courting, following these biblical principles is the best way to have a secure foundation for a marriage.
Does she seek to build you up and help you with what God has for you? Sometimes Christians get into relationships with Christians and it just doesn’t work out. What you must not do is become bitter and say, “everyone around me is in a relationship why am I not? Now take care of him and lay down your life for her.”We don’t talk much about guarding each other’s heart, but this extremely important. Some of you are in a relationship with the person that God wants you to marry and you will eventually marry. While you are praying for someone, someone is always praying for you.The world teaches that you are supposed to put your kids and your parents before your spouse. We are so quick to say I believe the Lord has given me this person. If the person is not Christian, then the Lord didn’t give you that person. Many people get into relationships and when they break up they find out that they were not really in love. In a relationship you both are going to learn from each other, but the woman takes the submissive role and the man takes the leadership role. Is he living in godliness and seeking to obey the Word? The last thing that I want to talk about is guarding your own heart. When you fail at guarding your heart, you start thinking “maybe she’s the one” or “maybe he’s the one.” Everyone that you see and meet becomes the potential “one.” This is dangerous because it can easily create pain and hurt if it doesn’t work out.If you seek to enter into a relationship with an unbeliever not only is it wrong, you will regret it, and you will be hurt. There are so many things in this world that help you deceive yourself. If you’re going to be a leader you have to know the Scriptures to teach God’s daughter. I am not saying that you should not be attracted to the person who you are dating because you should be. Is God working in his life and making him more like Christ? Instead of following your heart, you should follow the Lord. Seek His wisdom, seek guidance, seek clarity, and above all seek His will.What is the difference between dating and courting?
What is an appropriate level of intimacy before marriage?Christian dating does not consist of casual dating, which is unbiblical. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not conceited, does not act improperly, is not selfish, is not provoked, and does not keep a record of wrongs. To marry and be a representation of Christ and the church. “Oh Lord I want to love and lay down my life for someone just like you loved and laid down your life for me.”Are you able to leave your mother and father? The love between a father and his daughter is so great. Imagine His seriousness if you lead His daughter down the wrong path. Honor them as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing may interfere with your prayers.”Is there kissing in the Bible that applies to dating? It is a good idea when Christians don’t kiss before marriage because when you kiss there is no going back you can only go a step farther. The desires for the opposite sex are so strong that we are told to run. If you are looking for a supermodel you must know that extreme pickiness is not good and also there is a strong chance that you are not a supermodel. Look for his love for the Lord and the advancement of His kingdom. This type of dating will leave you broken and all over the place and I’m not even talking about sex. Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. Do you have any responsibilities or are your parents paying for everything? Some Christians choose not to start kissing before marriage and some Christians choose to hug and kiss lightly. No one is if you remove all the editing and makeup. Sexual immorality is a sin not only against God but against our own bodies (1 Corinthians ).It is important to love and honor others as we love ourselves (Romans 12:9-10), and this is certainly true for a courtship or dating relationship.We should find out if the person has been born again in the Spirit of Christ (John 3:3-8) and if he or she shares the same desire toward Christ-likeness (Philippians 2:5).