This could be for two reasons: you know the people closest to you will know it's not a right fit, or somewhere inside you you know it won't last, and you don't want to get everybody else involved too. You find yourself cutting a make-out session short, feeling more comfortable sleeping by yourself or intentionally keeping elements of your life secret, as though you're trying to show yourself life is just a little more comfortable when they're not in it. Days could go by without them reaching out to see how you're doing, and often do. But when it gets to a point that you have to hide or actively behave differently even just for the fear that they'll judge or dislike you...
Yes, we may be fundamentally logical and practical in our choices, but there’s something in our makeup that strives for the kind of genes we want to pass along to the next generation.
Having said that, let’s turn to what really as romance rolls into the routine of daily life.
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