Avoid negative messages like “Ughh, worst day ever at work.” Post content that reflects the witty, creative person you are.
I certainly don’t think this book is the be-all and end-all of dating advice, but it’s an interesting read for women looking for another perspective on dating in today’s completely wired world.
After that first exchange, the authors suggest taking at least a half hour to respond to each message.
That may be a bit long, but it makes you think twice about responding right away. Many times when you meet a potential new guy, texts fests ensue, and soon you find you’ve been texting for hours.
This is really solid advice that should probably be taught in college. Don’t send him anything you wouldn’t want your friends and family to see, because you never know—one day they could, particularly after a nasty breakup. I’ve friended way too many guys late at night immediately after a “meet cute,” and in hindsight I realize it kind of screams “I WANT TO SEE YOU NAKED.” 6. Of course you’re going to look—in fact, you’ll probably study it so you can pepper your conversation with some common interests—but if you make a direct reference to it, you’ll look like a creeper. But the authors warn that too much posting or too many mushy messages make it appear that you are trying to “claim” this guy and show the world he is your property. The authors rightly suggest that you think twice before posting lyrics to a lonesome song or something cliched and negative (“Karma’s a bitch”).
If he really is yours, everyone in the real world will already know it. Being sad or mad on Facebook is not attractive and makes it seem like you’re seeking attention.
It’s far more fun to allow a natural mysteriousness that comes with slowly getting to know someone rather than overdosing on their Facebook status updates from the last five years. These days more relationships start from what were once casual affairs—meaning that the sex came before anything else.
While there is nothing wrong with this per se, it does complicate things when we introduce the hormone surge from physical intimacy that can sometimes cloud our vision. While marriage and children is just as much a modern concept as a traditional one, it’s important not to approach every single date as though you are interviewing a potential life partner. Ultimately the term “rules” implies that there is only one right way to date; something which I do not subscribe to.You must maintain a life that is entirely your own and offers you support outside of a relationship. I totally get the hunger to know someone better, especially at the beginning of a connection.Nothing is creepier, however, than stalking a potential mate on social media. While this may not seem all that modern, it be when taken in context of current trends., a revamped version of their classic, updated with advice for women dating in today’s texting, Facebooking, instant messaging culture.It’s easy, and frankly quite fun, to critique these books as blatantly anti-feminist.She runs Intuitive Alchemy, a sanctuary for intuitive readings and coaching.