In Genesis it says, Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him." As Adam and Eve demonstrate, no matter how many friends we have, in order to fulfill our deep need for love and affection, we need close relationships with others, especially the opposite sex.
For example, dating helps develop a better understanding of each other's attitudes and behaviors, how to get along, and can increase your ability to discuss and solve relational problems.
We are not going to further elaborate on each of these points mentioned above, however we would like to focus on two in particular. Dating does not have to be scary, intimidating, pressure packed, or anything else but enjoyable.
- And, finally, that the wounded inner child must be kept in check. Similar (but not necessarily identical) values: This includes such issues as money, monogamy, and parenting.
- More people divorce over money than anything else.
Oftentimes, loneliness causes a person to feel depressed, impatient, bored, self-depreciation, and desperation as they feel panicked and helpless.
One of the best counters to loneliness is the establishment of meaningful relationships with others.
A person can use dating as a process of filtering out or narrowing the field of eligible partners down to a specific few and eventually to one person who will be his mate for a lifetime.
Dating can help couples acquire the needed knowledge and skills for a successful marriage.
Then I fell in love with a man because all we did was laugh and get along. We should look for someone who will stick around and discuss what goes wrong and then come up with a plan to fix it. Reciprocity (give and take): If you are a pleaser this will be strange to you. Realistic expectations: We need to be realistic about how much of our happiness should come from the relationship—not too much and not too little. The majority of our happiness should come form a healthy relationship with ourselves—self-esteem. I think we need to be honest from the beginning about what we are looking for and move on if we are not in sync.
The hallmark of a healthy relationship is being with someone who can give us as much as we give them. We tend to romanticize relationships because of the movies we watch. Why waste time just hanging out if we are not dating someone who has the potential for a long term relationship.
I wanted a lot of things but I had no real understanding of what would make is happy. Dating with a purpose is reserved for those of us who are making a concerted effort to find out if there is enough compatibility to sustain a healthy relationship which includes romantic love, excitement, getting along, and a future together. Honesty that engenders trust: Our greatest contentment comes from loving someone that we can trust. If this person has issues from his childhood or previous relationships, he has worked this through and is ready for a healthy relationship. The ability to negotiate or compromise: In a modern relationship compromise is an imperative. According to Judith Sills in, A Fine Romance, this should include a sit-down conversation before marriage. Self-awareness: This means both partners knowing who they are and what they want. Then we stick to our guns and look for this in a relationship before we commit. Self-esteem: This means both partners feeling good about themselves. - Asking for what you want, but not being addicted to getting it. (This means expressing your opinion without attacking the other person.) - Reporting your feelings. Sexual compatibility: This means similar values and preferences.