I want to be clear: I’ve been married three times, and all my husbands are good men.I wouldn’t have married them if they weren’t decent people.But also, my expectations of a relationship had a really high benchmark because of my father.
That means you have to be independent and make decisions.The kids' schedules came first and my career came second, even though I was the main moneymaker. When I'd go away to promote albums, my husband came with as my manager, which was a good thing. You hope your partner understands the kids have to come first a lot of times.I believe what you expect from marriage starts with how you’re raised—it’s the template for how you behave, what your comfort level is, and what you’re willing to tolerate.My parents got married in 1960, but they had a very modern approach to their relationship.I think women marry expectations: They see the reality of someone, but they think they can change it. I hung in there for a while, until there came a time when I couldn’t anymore.
And I think men marry who the woman is at that moment—they don’t feel like she will ever change and can’t handle it when she evolves. My second husband was six years younger than I was: When we got married, I was 36.Now that I'm on my third marriage, I’ve realized it's key to not expect one person to be able to fulfill every need in your life.I’ve got my friend who I go to the theater with, the friend I want to play tennis with.We started talking, had dinner, and then it just continued from there. I think everyone who has come into my life has arrived there with a purpose, and all the people I’ve had relationships with have brought me joy in different aspects.When I met Jim, I realized he was someone who could be a solid role model for my daughter, who could support me and my career and be a part of running my household and my businesses.It’s not all about finding passion, love, and chemistry. During a trip to Egypt—I go there often—the Egyptologist tour guide and I were talking about relationships and dating.