At the beginning of our relationship, my friends were concerned that his age automatically revealed his readiness to have a long-term relationship and plan a future together.
People in our lives also expressed the fear that if we were to stay together, we may never have a “normal” life.
Ultimately, my boyfriend and I have concluded that our love is too deep, intense, and “once-in-a-lifetime” to let it go.
What is the equivalent of "cougar" for a man who has a younger partner?
(Correct: there isn’t one.)So, after grappling with my own insecurities and the societal taboos, there were also the judgments of friends and family.
I know that I am a wonderful person, and if they are too close-minded to see me as what I am — a human with feelings, thoughts, stories, and love to give, then it isn’t my job to convince them otherwise.5. I have studied human behavior for years, and can pick up subtleties and nuances in people’s reactions and body language.
When I read or see negative behavior toward me, I sometimes want to scream and cry.
I remind myself that no one can predict the future.
People say to him, “But what if she can’t have children?My boyfriend and I are not immune to the effects of these judgments.Just a month ago, we had to have talk about whether or not we should stay together or break up — simply because of the pressure put on us from hearing so many critical opinions about our relationship.I know that this is something for them to process, and not for me to have to explain.Their fear over our choice to be together in actual fact has nothing to do with our loving relationship and us — it is their problem to solve.3. In times when I ask if it is all worth it, I look at him and know that I have found the person I do not want to live without.I am aware that people often judge what they do not understand.